In classic holiday card style (well, not really "classic" because I actually write more than a quick, cliched phrase on my cards), I wrote a personal note to each guest.
This past summer I spent the morning at the Goodwill (or some derivation thereof) helping my friend, Chris, shop for "black-tie optional" attire for our friend's wedding. The fellow didn't even own a suit. On his invite, I wrote: "If I told you that you could wear whatever the hell you want, would you be more likely to come?"
On a former boyfriend's card (who happens to be obsessed--god bless him--with minimizing our collective carbon impact), I wrote: "Do I at least get a tiny bit of credit for sending out postcards instead of real invitations? I am, indeed, afraid of Dante's modern level of hell: Carbon Dioxide that hasn't been offset."
Because I only invited people who add real meaning to my life and with whom I share real memories, the process was actually very quick and painless. (Editor's Note: I mean real "quick and painless," not rip-off-a-band-aid or wax-your-legs "quick and painless.")
It's funny how easy this entire process has been. By making a few key decisions upfront, we have simplified the entire planning process:
- We're paying for the whole thing ourselves so we get to make all the decisions.
- We're only inviting people with whom we are authentically connected.
- We are not going to obsess about details that are actually very irrelevant to our guests' enjoyment or the grand scheme of the universe.
- We are hosting a casual affair so everyone is more relaxed and more likely to have fun--including us.
- We are making the festivities special with sincerity rather than money.