In order to live an authentic life, we have to personalize all of these things.
As Matt and I plan a ceremony (and a party) to formalize and celebrate our commitment to each other, I realize that we are making decisions that lead to a very personalized wedding.
We started with our end vision for what we wanted the experience to be like, and we have been planning backwards from there (thank you Seven Habits of Highly Effective People and Understanding by Design). Every decision connects back to the vision.
Oftentimes, I think the tendency is to do the opposite. Couples start with the standard template of what an American wedding is and make decisions to tweak it and personalize it from there.
An example of this came across my inbox this morning from--none other than--The Knot. The wedding makers decree: "Personalize your wedding." I nod my head in agreement and then scroll down to see their strategies for making that happen: