Tying the Knot in a Meaningful and Memorable Way (Without Losing Our Savings or Sanity)

Thursday, May 15, 2008

What a Conundrum

I had a moment of crisis about the wedding yesterday. I realized I'm going to want the wedding weekend to give me time to feel connected to Matt (we are, after all, formally commemorating our love and commitment to each other). However, I worry that, for him, the wedding weekend is going to be less about me and more about his friends and family.

But it doesn't exactly seem fair for me to complain about that, considering the fact that we designed it to do precisely that--give us time to reconnect with the people with whom we are closest.

What a conundrum.

Perhaps I shouldn't look at it through such an either-or lens. We can surely carve out time for intimate connection with each other (get your mind out of the gutter) and still spend copious amounts of time with friends and family. We just have to be deliberate and strategic about it.


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2 comments:

Codex said...

Every once in a while it's a good thing to step back and remember: the wedding really isn't about you. The wedding is about your community--your declaration to us, and our recognition, that you are making this commitment and binding your lives together into a single unit. The marriage--the part that comes after that, for the rest of your life--is about you.

(If you want, you can blame your dilemma on the wedding-industrial complex, for inundating you with "It's your day!" propaganda. Even though you've internalized it in a totally non-self-centered manner.)

elle_dee_see said...

I really love that comment from the PP...

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