However, even this work reminds me of weddings!
Today, for example, I talked to teachers about the concept of "backwards planning" their units. First, they come up with the vision. What do they want students to think, feel, and do by the end of the unit?
Second, they figure out how to measure that vision. How will they know whether or not the vision has been achieved? How will they test whether or not students got it?
Third, they plan the smaller daily lessons that prepare students to achieve the vision.
This backwards-approach works for weddings, too. What a great way to plan!
- What do you want to think and feel about your wedding when it's all said and done?
- What do you want your guests to think and feel about your wedding when it's all said and done?
- What are the smaller details that align with creating those feelings?
The night Matt and I decided to get married, we went out for Mexican food and tried to list the overarching goals/principles for our wedding:
- To bring family and friends together to reconnect and form new friendships.
- The experience will not be overly-orchestrated. It's a celebration of our love, not a show.
- We will fight consumerism by spending only $2,000 max. The Wedding Industrial Complex is conspiring to make us think we have to spend more money. But we want to make the event special with sincerity, not money.
- It will be good for the environment.
- It will be connected to nature.
- We will have real time to spend with guests. We want to be able to spend quality time with our friends and family. We don’t want to follow the traditional pattern of a few wedding “events” where the bride and groom only have time for a “meet and greet”: rehearsal dinner, reception, brunch the following morning. We want more of a family & friends reunion.
- We will make all the decisions ourselves so our wedding represents us.
- We only want to be surrounded by our closest friends and family.
- We want to be relaxed and fully present.