While she was looking around, I opened up the most recent issue of Bride Magazine.
Luckily, I mostly kept myself away from Wedding Industrial Complex propaganda while I was planning my own wedding. That stuff is mainly advertisements anyway.
But I was intrigued by one of the stories on the cover: "58 Little Ways to Make Your Wedding Unique."
Yes! I am all in favor of unique weddings. The more weddings you go to, the more cliched they start to feel.
We tried to make our wedding unique with a choreographed first dance, a quilt-wrapping ritual during the ceremony, personalized name tags at the Welcome Picnic, etc.
I was interested in reading about new strategies for making weddings unique.
The magazine's suggestions for making your wedding unique?
Yep, that's right.
Here's what they had to say:
"Guest gaze at them all night, so each little accent--place cards, menus, and votives should be a tiny treasure."
Ugh! Do you really want your guests staring at the centerpieces all night because there's nothing better to do?
When we obsess about all the little surface details (details, by the way, which tend to bring in more and more money for the Wedding Industrial Complex), we take time away from figuring out how to genuinely make our weddings unique. What will we say to each other during the ceremony? How will we plan serious fun for our guests? How will we help friends and family from two distinct sides come together and get to know each other?
Those are the kinds of things we should be reading about.