Matt and I didn't do anything fancy for those. We sent out an e-mail message with a link to a survey. We asked folks to tell us the likelihood that they would be able to attend (this helped us with the planning). We also gave them a chance to let us know if they would like to help in any way. It was practical and friendly on the budget and the environment.
For those guests who aren't tech savvy, we simply called. Of course the people on the list who weren't tech savvy were also the older folks, so they especially appreciated the personal call.
It was fun to read the survey responses as they trickled in.
I was a little disheartened by a comment left by one of Meg's readers about her Save the Dates. She wrote:
"My fiance had written a funny poem about us and we nearly used that... decided it was a little too irreverent for our audience. It was really funny, though!"
I understand the inclination to temper yourself a little bit. I did the same thing at my wedding. I really wanted to wear sunglasses during the ceremony, for example, but I figured people would find it really offensive that my partner wasn't able to look me in the eyes.
But we also did tons of crazy stuff, just because that's who we are. Let's see: there was our first dance to Prince's "Kiss," there was the fact that we didn't walk down an aisle, the dress that cost $15, the wedding party that didn't match, the bouquet that was put together from wild flowers an hour before the ceremony, the dog in the ceremony, the iPod instead of a DJ, the video with crazy pictures of our life together, the postcard invitation...I could go on.
The point is, we chose to do these things because we wanted our wedding to represent us. Since we only invited people who love us dearly, they also love our wedding (even though they may have been a little freaked out at times).
It just saddens me a bit that we live in a culture that is still Puritanical at its foundation. We censor our real selves because we want to fit in. We want to be accepted. We don't want to rock the boat.
But your wedding should be the fullest expression of who you are. You are sharing yourself and your love with your closest friends and family. Don't worry about being too irreverent! Just be yourself!