I'm not a big fan of "rules" and I certainly don't like rules that come from the Wedding Industry, but I actually found many of their ten items very helpful.
A few of my favorites:
1. I can live without lady's slipper orchids.
2. I won't make my bridesmaids look like clones.
3. I won't invite my second cousin's fling.
4. I won't obsess over my registry.
8. I won't have unrealistic weight expectations.Their explanations are very compelling and insightful. For example, I very much appreciated this recommendation:
"If you find that you're being attracted to things that will have your budget bursting at the seams, it's time for a reality check. Ask yourself: What will those fragile flowers (or whatever your expensive obsession is) truly add to my wedding? If the answer is just 'impressed glances from five in-the-know female guests,' then you're better off spending that dough on something more people will appreciate."
Unfortunately, I was disgusted by one in particular:
"I won't stress out about his bachelor party.
What happens on his stag night is totally out of your control and not for you to know or ever find out. He wouldn't be marrying you if he didn't vastly prefer being by your side instead of being surrounded by 10 intoxicated buddies and expensive entertainment named Bambi. 'Nuff said."
What? You're going to build your marriage on a foundation of dishonesty? This recommendation makes me queasy.