This whole trash-the-dress idea is a phenomenon that, frankly, I can't wrap my mind around.
I tried to do a little Google research to answers my questions. Unfortunately, it only led to more questions. Here are some snippets of rationale for why one would have a Trash the Dress session:
From a YouTube video: It's a way to get "more than one use out of a very expensive gown." And "the reality of a wedding dress is you wear it for two and a half hours or so...you take it off and hang it up in your closet that night and it's sad and lonely."
Then there's this bit from a Trash the Dress website:
You’ve made a commitment to your husband. He’s your one and only true love, right? Then you’ll never need the dress again. And no, your daughter won’t wear it in 20-30 years. So you have two choices: 1) Suffocate it in plastic and throw it in a closet 2) Show your husband how committed you are by trashing the dress, and get some great fun pictures while you do it!
Really? There are really only two choices?
- Actually buying a dress you will wear again. Is that really such a crazy idea? It seems like the most rationale idea of all. If you're going to drop a lot of money on a dress, it seems logical to get multiple uses of it (editor's note: one narcissistic photo shoot where you proceed to ruin the dress does not constitute "multiple uses"). If you know of someone who wears their wedding dress in real life, please e-mail me!
- Selling your big, fancy dress that you're never going to wear again so a) you at least recoup some of the money and b) someone else can have a big, fancy dress and go into less debt.
I really am worked up about this. It is so incredibly wasteful and narcissistic and self-centered and vain to spend thousands of dollars on a dress that you wear for a couple of hours and then proceed to ruin (or make it so dirty that it then requires hundreds of dollars in dry-cleaning fees).
Please, please, please: Before you get married, figure out what you are going to do with your dress after the wedding. If you're only going to wear it on your wedding day, do some quick math to figure out how much you are paying for that dress per hour. Is it really necessary? I know it's a big day and you're going to be the center of attention and you want to feel beautiful, but there are lots of inexpensive dresses out there that can accomplish the same thing. Or rent the damn thing!