I get why there's lots of photography of such things: brides tend to put a lot of time and energy (not to mention money) into these details. Hence they become items that need to be photographed.
But it becomes a self-perpetuating cycle. Once brides-to-be start looking at wedding porn on websites and in magazines, they become convinced that they, too, need to obsess about the details. Then they spend a lot of time/energy/money on the details and those become things that need to be photographed.
I don't believe a wedding is in the surface details. I believe a wedding is in the words, the actions, and the energy.
That's what I like to see photos of.
I want to see the wedding party and the guests doing things. Laughing, eating, talking, dancing. Whatever fun stuff there is to do at a wedding (and there should be lots of it), that's what I want to see.
I also like the shots that capture the bride and the groom playing together.
Here's an example from a profile that Ariel did over at Offbeat Bride. The fun in their relationship is transparent. I understand that their "fun session" was potentially contrived by the photographer (i.e., "Let's get some candid shots of you two together.") but at least the photos are dynamic. The energy is palpable.