It got me thinking about the one-size-fits-all approach we take to planning weddings. So many of us follow the same pattern: Rehearsal dinner the night before, late afternoon ceremony, evening reception, brunch the next morning. The only time it feels permissible to break the mold is for budgetary reasons. If you have your reception on a Friday night or a Sunday night to save money, then that's okay.
But there are no laws about what makes a wedding a wedding (well, okay, there are a few laws--but not many!). Instead, we choose to follow unwritten laws, the laws of our culture and society. We've been to a gazillion weddings that followed the same pattern, so we follow the pattern, too.
I'm not saying we definitely shouldn't follow the pattern. I mean, hey, the pattern is a good one! (and we followed it for our wedding.) But it may not be the best formula for everyone's wedding. When we start to plan our weddings, we shouldn't just default to the old tried and trued formula. We really should start from scratch and figure out what kind of day we want to have.
Maybe it makes sense to get up on a Saturday morning, get married, and then have a delicious brunch buffet with mimosas! Or maybe it makes sense to get married in the early afternoon and then head over to a baseball game with all your guests?
The point is, a wedding has very few rules. My person rules are: community, connection, commitment, and fun. But some people may prefer a wedding without the community. Or they would prefer to have a more serious affair. The possibilities really are endless!