There's an interesting little column in the Telegraph about the inverse relationship between wedding budgets and enjoyment at weddings.
The author argues:
The more grandiose the service, the more impoverished the marriage. My enjoyment of weddings has, for the most part, been in inverse proportion to the amount spent on them. The most romantic affairs have almost always been the cheapest, because then the focus is solely on the love between bride and groom. [Editor's Note: or bride and bride or groom and groom]She continues:
I can't help thinking this recession will be good news for the affianced. It provides an ideal excuse for a budget wedding or, indeed, a Budgens wedding. It's insanity to blow your savings on a "big day", when most of us have a socking big mortgage.One of the best weddings I ever attended as a guest was the simplest (see photo above). It took place at a local children's museum. The bride wore a colored sundress. The groom wore a shirt and pants. They had no bridesmaids or groomsmen. They didn't even have an officiant for most of the ceremony. They simply spoke to each other.
It was the most touching thing to witness. I had a solid stream of tears running down my cheek throughout the entire thing.
Afterwards, we went inside for a lovely buffet, free play on anything in the museum, delicious cakes, dancing to a homemade play list, and grandma's punch.
The whole affair was so comfortable, sincere, and fun. It showcased their personalities and their relationship so beautifully. It wasn't a show; it was a communal celebration.