Despite the fact that I am generally a rational, practical, level-headed person, I sometimes lost it during the wedding planning process. Yes, I burst into tears at the airport when we were struggling to find a wedding venue that fit within our budget, and Matt didn't feel the same urgency that I did. Yes, I was deeply saddened by the fact that we couldn't afford photo stamps for our invitations.
Sometimes, the teeniest, tiniest thing felt really, really big. Gargantuan, even.
One strategy that helped me re-ground myself amidst my matrimonial meltdowns was invoking my wedding mantras.
A wedding mantra is a short phrase that you can repeat over and over to remind yourself that you really are a rational and sane person, despite the fact that wedding planning sometimes drives you a little mad. Here are a few of my favorites:
- No matter what happens, we'll still be married in the end.
- Those who matter don't mind, and those who mind don't matter.
- A wedding is about community, connection, commitment, and fun--not ________ [insert any number of trivial and inconsequential items that the Wedding Industrial Complex claims are aboslutely essential].
- Our relationship/marriage is more important than our wedding.
I also like this one from Ariel over at Offbeat Bride: "Your wedding is not a contest."
So, 2000dollarwedding kindred spirits, what other mantras do you have up your sleeves? Please divulge! Some of us could use as much grounding advice as we can get.
* I do not mean to feed the hysteria around wedding planning by implying that all of you will have matrimonial meltdowns. Hopefully, you'll read this post and think, "What the heck is she talking about?"