So I have no idea what one is supposed to do when it comes to letting guests know what to wear to your wedding. I'm not talking about requiring them to wear a certain thing (like all white or black--ahem, Posh Spice). I'm simply talking about letting them know how formal or informal the event is.
Matt and I decided to be frank with our guests because we didn't want to leave anyone speculating or worrying. Here's what we said on our wedding wedsite:
- Don’t forget your sunglasses…and your umbrella!
- Evenings can be chilly in the mountains of Colorado.
- Bring your bathing suit if you want to go in the hot tub!
We continued to explicitly state the "dress code" by including this on our ceremony programs:
Reception | Sunshine Mountain Lodge
· Located six miles south on the right-hand side of Highway 7.
· Please park on the shoulder of the road.
· Feel free to change into more comfortable clothes or come as you are, and bring your bathing suits if you want to go in the hot tub.
· Dinner will be buffet style. Appetizers (starting immediately): chips and salsa, guacamole, seven-layer dip. Main Course (starting around 6pm): vegetarian/chicken/beef fajitas, tamales, make-your-own quesadillas. Side: black bean corn salad. Dessert (around 8:15): Cake (vanilla berry, cheesecake, tiramisu, carrot). Drinks: beer, wine, frozen strawberry margaritas, soda, juice.
· Have fun with board games, the campfire, dancing on the patio, a walk in the woods, the video of Matt and Sara, etc. Dancing will start around 8:45 p.m.
· Make yourself at home!
As far as I know, we could have committed a major wedding faux pas. Let's see what I can find on the subject:
"I would not bother with any note in regards to how guests should dress—it is poor etiquette."--My Dream Wedding.ca
"So what’s the easiest way to tell guests what to wear? Simple — choose telling wedding invitations."--Manolo for the Brides
Oops. I'm not surprised. That's why I tried not to spend much time in wedding forums when we were planning our wedding!
What are your thoughts on the subject?