Matt and I kind of asked a lot from our guests:
- We asked them to fly to Denver (since most of them lived elsewhere).
- We asked them to rent cars to trek 1.5 hours into the mountains for the wedding (although we did facilitate carpooling on our wedsite!).
- We asked them to pay for their own lodging (although we found a place that only cost $25 or $35/person/night).
- We asked them to upload a picture and write a short bio on our wedsite (to facilitate the creation of community among people from very different social and familial groups).
- We asked them to mail us a scrap of fabric before the wedding, so we could incorporate it into a wedding quilt.
- We asked them to donate any of their unused, old gold to greenKarat so it could be melted down and formed into new rings.
- We asked more than 30 of them to take on small jobs to help make the Welcome Picnic, ceremony, and reception possible.
- We asked them to upload all of their photos after the wedding to a centralized flickr account.
Not every guest did every item on the list, but many of them did a lot of them. In the end, it helped our wedding center on community, connection, commitment, and fun.
That's why I was so excited to hear about Zach and Meg who are encouraging their guests to read Infinite Jest before attending their Alaskan wedding. Here's what they say on their wedsite:
We used creative name tags to facilitate conversation at our Welcome Picnic, but I love the book club idea! Oh, how I wish I were friends with Meg and Zach. The ceremony is at a rose garden in downtown Anchorage, and the reception will be held at their home. [insert sigh of contentment]
Diversion In the midst of wedding planning and enjoying the Alaskan summer, I’ve decided to take the infinitesummer challenge. Won’t you join me? After all, you have at least 3-9 hours on a plane to get to Alaska for the wedding. Plus, it could make great cocktail party conversation at the reception, if someone else happens to have read or is reading the book (I can think of 2 other people who are and they may be at the reception). Also it doesn’t require physical exertion and you shouldn’t get sweaty, well you could, but then you’d probably be doing more than just reading the book.