You said it exactly right. We faced the very same dilemma: How do we stand up for the rights of all people without alienating our more conservative and religious family members?
In our first ceremony draft, I was way too militant and angry (because, heck, the issue makes me so, so angry). Matt pushed against the wording and argued that we should take it out altogether. I explained to him (in what may or may not have been a raised voice) that the least we could do to support marriage equality was to speak out against the injustice publicly. When I ran the wording by my gay best friend, he agreed with Matt that it was over-the-top and that we should strive for a more celebratory tone.
In the end, Matt and I settled on this:
- As we gather here to solidify our commitment to each other, we would also like to celebrate the fact that California just joined the ranks of Massachusetts by finally starting to extend the rights and privileges of marriage to everyone, regardless of sexual orientation.
- It moves us one step closer to fulfilling our nation’s promise to provide liberty and justice for all.
Meg of A Practical Wedding also had some great ideas in this post. One of her ideas is to print this statement in their program: "Meg and David believe that marriage is a universal human right, and continue to fight and pray for the day when we will be able to share the joys and privileges of civil marriage with all of our LGBTQ sisters and brothers."
2000dollarwedding kindred spirits, do you have any additional ideas?