I'm the kind of person who is a bit nostalgic for certain aspects of the olden days (but not the racism, sexism, heterosexism, etc.).
I like the fact that people cooked more meals at home, baked things from scratch, made quilts out of their clothing remnants, grew their own vegetables, raised chickens...
I especially like the idea of a "bee." When individuals or families had a big task to undertake (like clearing their fields, building a barn, harvesting, etc.), they would ask their neighbors and friends to come over for a big work party. Everyone would pitch in and work and socialize alongside each other. Afterward, they would often throw big feasts to thank their neighbors and friends for their help.
I wish we approached weddings with this kind of communal and interconnected mentality: a coming together to pull off something really big and then a celebration of our collective good work. I'm convinced that people--in general--enjoy weddings more and feel more connected when they help make it happen.
I love this excerpt from Grit article about a Homegrown Wedding:
Preparations for the wedding soon resembled an old-fashioned quilting bee or community barn raising. Everyone remotely connected with the bride and groom pitched in and helped out with whatever needed to be done.
Eric’s aunts and mother, Debbie, joined Ruth, Melanie and their friends during the spring months decorating 225 handmade invitations and stuffing envelopes.
As the August 20 wedding drew closer, outside work began with chain saws, tractors, mowers, rakes, hoes, brooms and paint brushes.
The morning of the wedding, dozens of people were busy around the farmstead. A constant stream of pickup trucks, work vans and trailers surged up and down our driveway, bringing borrowed tables and chairs, and a friend brought dozens of bales of straw that he had grown, mowed and baled just for the wedding. Electricians, plumbers, carpenters, engineers and laborers – all friends of the couple or their parents – gave of their time, tools and special talents. A young couple couldn’t ask for better wedding presents.