Matt is five years younger than I am, which actually makes me feel younger. I figure I won't want to retire before he does (boring!), so I feel more like 26 than my ripe old age of 31.
One of the few ways in which I actually feel 31 is in regard to my biological clock. I worry about my declining fertility as I advance in years. No, this isn't a post to say that Matt and I are trying to get pregnant. My point is actually about marriage.
Since we'll probably start trying to have a baby in the next couple years, we really want to make sure that our marriage is as strong as possible. I can only begin to imagine how much a baby adds stress (as well as goodness, of course) to a relationship. We want to make sure we have really strong communication, conflict resolution, habits of caring, physical intimacy, shared goals, and self-awareness in place as a foundation for our expanding family.
Unfortunately, we didn't attend any sort of pre-marital counseling before we got married. We got overwhelmed with buying a house, getting a dog, looking for new jobs (and planning a wedding). I wish we would have prioritized a marriage course, but we just didn't.
So now we're prioritizing it. We're going to go to a free class offered to Texans. (The last one we tried to sign up for didn't work out because we didn't live in the proper zip code.) We're also going to seek out couples counseling while our relationship is going well. It seems to make more sense to be proactive rather than reactive. Anyone know a good couples therapist in Houston?
Lastly, we bought a book called Happiness for Two. Each chapter offers a poignant piece of advice with an explanation that spans about 1.5 to 2 pages. It's perfect for reading in the bathroom.