So Matt and I were supposed to go on our Anniversary Date this past Saturday (which entailed a homemade picnic and a boat ride on the bayou), but a couple things happened:
- We found a free pre-marital (and, um, post-marital, I suppose) class that we really wanted to go to.
- Our friend, Camella, invited us to her birthday next weekend, which--surprise, surprise--entails the same boat ride on the bayou (although it's even better because we're riding our bikes to meet the boat, and she's renting out the entire thing for 20 of her closest friends).
It didn't even occur to me to ask! On the one hand, I didn't think to ask because I just assumed that a course sponsored by the state would not discriminate against an entire group of people. On the other hand, I didn't think to ask because I'm heterosexual, and I have the privilege (sadly enough) of not having to think about who's included and who's excluded.
When I called to register, I asked the woman if same-sex couples were welcome. She replied with a very matter-of-fact, "No." My blood boiled and I responded, "Well, I don't feel comfortable attending a class that doesn't welcome my friends and family. Please take us off the list."
She went on to explain that because it's a grant-funded program and the state of Texas doesn't recognize same-sex couples, only heterosexuals could attend the class.
Luckily, Matt and I were able to find another free class (sponsored by the state) that would allow same-sex couples to attend (just not give them a certificate of completion). We decided that we would attend the class but then democratize the information via the internet so that all couples can benefit.
So, in the coming weeks, we'll be sharing what we learned at our class for all couples.
As a side note, I have to add that attending a marriage class with my beloved just reiterated that I am so lucky to have him. The fact that he was willing (and excited) to attend means that he's committed to our relationship and committed to doing the hard work that it takes to forge a life together. Hooray!