There are times in our lives when we need extra strategies to help ourselves stay grounded (and some of us--like me--need those strategies every day!). I've written before about how mantras helped me stay sane during the wedding planning process (and there's a whole section about it in my book about crafting a meaningful, memorable, and affordable celebration).
For me, it's difficult to turn off my brain. I can't stop myself from generating thoughts about things that I don't want to think about. I've stopped fighting that downhill battle and instead focus on what's in my circle of influence. When thoughts creep into my mind that I want to shut down, I simply override them with a mantra.
For example, when I start to say something negative to myself about how I shouldn't dream so big or about how I'm not capable of accomplishing something, I say to myself, "Let it go." I say it as many times as I need to. The simple act of saying it literally causes a physical release.
It worked for me during wedding planning, it works for me when I'm feeling insecure, and now it's helping me with "The Waiting Game." I'm in those slow couple weeks between ovulation and being able to take a pregnancy test. It's our first time trying since the miscarriage. Because my cycles are so long, I have to wait even longer than the 28-day cycle girl.
So when I start to get antsy about taking a pregnancy test (which would just be a waste of money at this point), I say to myself: "Be patient. Enjoy what you have." It's so simple and yet so important.
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