tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-458108451940824937.post7024581914346946995..comments2008-12-10T13:04:34.198-05:00Sara E. Cotnerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13484691703233805436noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-458108451940824937.post-69645192664632108502008-12-10T13:04:00.000-05:002008-12-10T13:04:00.000-05:00Thanks! I just wrote a little entry on my blog regarding this. I think that your first piece of advice: setting aside time to make decision, will be very useful for us. Makes so much sense. Here's hoping that being mindful of all these pressures will go a long way to keeping it real with your partner. :-)<BR/><BR/>- ChendaChendaBridehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13036236734592511220noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-458108451940824937.post-46467807495136888572008-12-08T13:56:00.000-05:002008-12-08T13:56:00.000-05:00Great post! It's so easy to get completely carried away by wedding planning. I really hate this stereotype, but I can totally see where the term "bridezilla" comes from -- I've gone there a time or two myself, despite all of my very best intentions! :)Sarahttp://transitoryenchantedmoment.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-458108451940824937.post-45280037284667061722008-12-08T12:58:00.000-05:002008-12-08T12:58:00.000-05:00good thoughts...i actually just has a similar discussion this weekend with my boy. he is in the last two weeks of his first semester at grad school and is going crazy, and my workload is much less demanding...so i have much more time to think/read/get ideas for our wedding and am getting antsy about nailing down plans as we hit the 6-months-to-our wedding mark. he wants to be involved more than he is, but is trying to keep his head above water with school right now. it is a balancing act, and requires patience and understanding on both our parts, but really, that is good practice for relationship anyways :)rachel wnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-458108451940824937.post-54627013347860337812008-12-08T12:19:00.000-05:002008-12-08T12:19:00.000-05:00Sara,<BR/><BR/>Your post is amazingly timely. I just went through a full weekend of emotional upheaval over our wedding and came to the conclusion that 'I WANT a wedding with our families and friends there.' <BR/><BR/>There. I said it. I WANT it. I couldn't own it before... wanted him to want it as much as I did, so I didn't feel so selfish. But alas, he'd be quite happy to elope. And we both have big families, so having a smaller, intimate wedding didn't make sense.<BR/><BR/>So thank you for writing this today. It echos what i've struggled with all weekend (and really, since we got engaged). It's a much-needed reality check that it's okay to want to celebrate with a big party... and because he loves me, he wants it, too (just not at my level).amychttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11793117653561745718noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-458108451940824937.post-66178036873638468472008-12-08T10:55:00.000-05:002008-12-08T10:55:00.000-05:00I'm WAY interested to see what the guy's point of view on this is and to see if he agrees with the advice you gave! Good advice, but I'm not sure setting aside sit down time every week would work for our schedules, etc - but I'm sure we can figure out something similar to better suit our lifestyle. (I'm the obsessive one...I need to do some of these things for sure! lol) :)<BR/><BR/>www.dottheiwedding.blogspot.comKianahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07527646197854912136noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-458108451940824937.post-72709291568676826462008-12-08T09:44:00.000-05:002008-12-08T09:44:00.000-05:00Oh, Ashley Sue, you are too kind. Did you miss the part where I said: <BR/><BR/>"I can't guarantee that these strategies will work. They are just things I wish we would have done more of in retrospect!" <BR/><BR/>I wish I had been more level-headed and practical! <BR/><BR/>You'll see. When Matt writes his side of the story, I might seem like a monster! <BR/><BR/>Best of luck with your planning...Sara E. Cotnerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13484691703233805436noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-458108451940824937.post-86050050360845943852008-12-08T09:10:00.000-05:002008-12-08T09:10:00.000-05:00goodness, how are you so level-headed and practical? after following your blog for a while, i'm considering not having a wedding but rather turning the day into a mutual sara-worshipping day. how do you feel about this? (joke.)Ashley Suehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03018597708493832753noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-458108451940824937.post-15480984694041660742008-12-08T08:57:00.000-05:002008-12-08T08:57:00.000-05:00What great advice! Thanks! :)AmyJeanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10648725099262152263noreply@blogger.com