Tying the Knot in a Meaningful and Memorable Way (Without Losing Our Savings or Sanity)

Monday, March 10, 2008

Our DIY Desires

Okay, enough wondering about why people don't send out personalized wedding invitations (although my aunt pointed out that she had to invite a bunch of random parents'-friends type people, which may be one explanation).

My new query for the day is: Are there people out there who have second thoughts about their spouse-to-be based on things that surface during wedding planning?

It seems to me that planning a wedding reveals so much about what you value and how you live life. With Matt, this is definitely true. Luckily (knock-on-wood) everything that has surfaced reiterates that we're very aligned with each other. We have a very similar vision of what we want the event to feel like. We usually build upon each other's ideas. Maybe every pre-engagement couple should be forced to plan a major party together before committing to tie the knot?

And, to add icing to the cake (real butter icing, not that plastic wedding icing), I feel so, so lucky to be joining the Bradford family. Matt's parents are spending a week visiting us in Denver (from Bloomington), and they are so helpful and supportive about this whole wedding gig. They respect and support our DIY desires.


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Sunday, March 9, 2008

Don't Want to Sully the Appearance

Matt and I are busy finishing up the invitations. By "finishing up," I mean that we are writing personalized messages to our guests. The more I write, the more right it feels. I'm starting to wonder, "Why in the world isn't it customary to write personalized messages on wedding invitations?"

I mean, which holiday cards do you prefer? In my book, on a scale from 1-10, the 1 cards are those that have a generic, pre-printed message with a signature from the sender. A 5 is usually the one-size-fits-all letter. Bonus points (like up to a 6) if the letter is witty, and maybe 7 if it includes a photo. But the best cards are those that have a personalized message written to me.

We all want to feel valued, loved, and appreciated, and nothing says "I value, love, and appreciate you" like a hand-written note. When we invite others to our wedding, we are often asking them to trek hundreds of miles, spend hundreds of dollars on a plane ticket/rental car/hotel, and perhaps take a day off work. It seems like a little note of pre-appreciation is in order.

I don't mean this as an attack against generic invitation senders. I'm genuinely asking, "Why is it more customary not to write anything personal on invitations?" Is it because guests lists are usually very long and it would take too much time? Is it because invitations are often very beautiful and you don't want to sully the appearance?

Any comments with your speculations would be greatly appreciated!

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