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Wednesday, August 27, 2008

Don't Let the Wedding Overshadow the Relationship

I keep a document on my computer entitled "Quotes."

Well, "Quotes.doc."

I add to it every time a quote resonates with me. I love the way quotes are simultaneously so simple and so profound. (As a side note, I think those are lovely words to describe a wedding: so simple and yet so profound.)

Today I came across a William James quote that appeals to my sense of self-agency and improvement, especially because I spent my day in a charter school for low-income students: "The greatest revolution of our generation is the discovery that human beings, by changing the inner attitudes of their minds, can change the outer aspects of their lives."

As I entered into my quotes document (under the category "Living Life"), I came upon another quote that I had apparently added but forgotten. It's a quote that is particularly relevant to the wedding planning process.

The wedding planning process is a complex one. It's so full of excitement and anticipation and decision-making and compromise/consensus/conflict. It's so easy to let the Wedding overshadow your relationship.

This quote from Emily Dickinson reminds me that the months and days leading up to our weddings are just as important as the actual event. They provide us with ample opportunity to cultivate and practice love and kindness and forgiveness and patience.

Her quote is this: "Forever is composed of nows."

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Brittany said...

I LOVE LOVE LOVE this quote. So true about wedding planning, and about any relationship in general!

Anonymous said...

Just wanted to let you know that I'm so glad I followed the Weddingbee link over to your site -- your wedding is incredibly inspiring! Thanks for sharing so much.

All the best,
Sara (with no "h" -- we're few and far between!)

Melissa said...

I love the last quote :)

Anonymous said...

Hey, I thought you would like to know that the first quote you mentioned is actually scientifically proven! You can change your actual genotype and thus your phenotype (the outer expression of your genotype) by your inner attitude and beliefs. So think happy thoughts!

Mrs. Andi said...

The more I read your blog, the more I like it!! Sorry to be a comment hog, but I had to say that I do the same thing! I signed up to Real Simple's daily thought email & some of them I LOVE. I keep a list (also a Word doc) & use them as email signatures & screensavers. Some quotes have stood the test of time for a good reason, they're brilliant!

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