Happy Halloween: Part II

Phew. The costume is done. Just in time for today. Halloweeeeeen!

I found myself casting aside my original grandiose plans in order to keep my sanity. For example, I was going to type up "Double Word Score" and the other tile words, have them printed on transfers, and iron them onto the dress. Sure that would have looked cleaner and more professional, but it also would have taken a lot longer than the, um, Sharpie I used to write it in my best block writing. I had to know when to say when.

And thank you for your suggestions. It's actually a little hot in Houston to sport tights (but I love the white tights with spare tiles glued on!). And "banjo" would be a great word.

As I was in the final throes of the project, I looked around at my disaster of a craft/office room and was reminded of a picture of Kristina's room over at Lovely Morning right before her wedding. On the one hand, the mess feels inevitable.

On the other hand, I wonder if I would alleviate a lot of my stress by keeping my house clean, even in times of stress (and especially during times of stress). Personally, I am so much more relaxed in an organized environment.

But somehow, when I'm stressed, I feel like it takes too much time to pick up after myself. It feels too inefficient.

I suspect, though, that the few minutes it would take to tidy things up would actually be a huge investment in keeping my stress levels down. That's my resolution for my next DIY project.

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Happy Halloween: Part I

Where weddings intersect with Halloween...

Check out this "wedding cake" made from pumpkins.

You can marvel at other people's DIY prowess at Duarte. One of my favorites is the Etch-a-Sketch.

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DIY: Add Applique to Your Wedding Dress

Finally. The DIY quasi-tutorial appeared on A $10,000 Wedding.

It turns out she simply glued it on!

I am dying to try this. I wish I had some event on the horizon that warranted buying a dress and experimenting. I find it so stunning. It's such a great way to create a unique dress without making it from scratch. And I love, love, love that the original dress only cost $68. It's another example of making something special with sincerity and heart rather than money.

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DIY: Halloween Costume Update

Thankfully, creating the second half of my Halloween Scrabble dress was a lot easier than the first half. I find that's usually true with DIY projects. It takes a little bit to figure out the most efficient and effective way to do something, but once you work out the kinks, it goes much faster.

That's particularly good news for wedding DIY stuff (when you tend to make multiple items--in the double or triple digits!). It usually gets easier as the process progresses.

There were lots of mishaps--of course--including a hole in the middle of one of the squares near the top of the dress because I accidentally snipped it with the pinking shears (not sure how to fix that one--a patch would look so tacky!). Also, it's not evident from the photo because I'm leaning forward a bit, but the dress is way shorter than I anticipated. And I have to wear it to a professional function. Alas.

I made the earrings and necklace by drilling through the tiles with the smallest drill bit possible (an activity I don't recommend! I ruined many of those pesky tiles and really frightened my fingers).

The next step is to make big tiles to glue onto the front of the dress in Scrabble fashion. But I'm not sure what to write. Any ideas?

I'm looking for a crossword style, so I need a short word across my chest, a long word down the dress, and then a short word off one of the bottom letters of the long word. Please help!

(As always, if you have any questions about my DIY stuff, just leave a question in the comments section.)

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Easy, DIY Wedding Ceremony Programs

Wow. I'm inspired by this cute wedding ceremony program using wooden fan handles. It was featured on Brooklyn Bride and designed by Mok Duk.

We created fans for our ceremony programs, too, but I didn't think to do a one-sided fan. Much simpler (and it conserves paper because you're not gluing two sheets together). Brilliant!

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Saving Money for a Wedding

As our economy flounders, we'll have to talk more and more about the cost of weddings and what is a reasonable amount to spend on a one-day celebration. I love this excerpt from One Perfect Day: The Selling of the American Wedding by Rebecca Mead:

"What does all this wedding-industry hype mean for the woman who turns to bridal magazines for guidance and inspiration? One of the things it means is that an expectation that getting married is going to be a very costly endeavor has been drummed into her head well in advance of the start of her wedding planning...If a bride has been told, repeatedly, that it costs nearly $28,000 to have a wedding, then she starts to think that spending nearly $28,000 on a wedding is just one of those things that a person has to do, like writing a rent check every month or paying health insurance premiums. (Or she prides herself on being a budget bride and spending a mere $15,000 on the event.)."

The author continues:

"She is less likely to reflect upon the fact that $28,000 would cover an awful lot of rent checks or health insurance payments; that, in fact, $28,000 would have more than covered a 10 percent down payment on the median purchase price of a house in 2005 and would cover the average cost to a family of a health insurance policy, at 2005 rates, for a decade. The bride who has been persuaded that $28,000 is a reasonable amount of money to spend on her wedding day is less likely to measure that total against the nation's median household income--$42,389 in 2004--and reflect upon whether it is, in fact, reasonable for her or for anyone to spend the equivalent of seven and a half months of the average American's salary on one day's celebration" (27).

Sobering thoughts, indeed.

It saddens me that we think we have to spend so much money in order to create meaningful and memorable weddings. I am even more saddened when people think they can't get married unless they have enough money for an expensive wedding. One reader wrote: "I have been engaged for a little over a year and we were planning on waiting until 2010 to marry because of money."

Don't get me wrong, I do think people should save up for their weddings before they get married. Credit is a dangerous, dangerous thing, and we should--for the most part--have the money for something before we buy it (exceptions being things like houses and college).

But people shouldn't have to wait years as they save an insane amount for one day. A marriage is not the destination. It's the beginning of the journey. We should save our money for life after the wedding!

The folks at A Backyard Wedding somehow managed to save $30,000 for their wedding but decided to use only $10,000. They used the rest of the money to go towards school, a house, and a vacation. You can find their specific budget breakdown on their site.

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DIY Wedding Dresses

Oh wow. A $10,000 Wedding posted the most amazing dress. It started as a $68 dress from Target. With a little DIY flare, it was transformed into a completely stunning ensemble.

I am on the edge of my seat waiting for the tutorial.

If the black is just regular fabric, she may have used Steam-2-Seam like I did for the baby onesie I made a couple weeks ago.

But maybe it's vinyl. Vinyl is much easier to shape because you can cut it with an X-acto knife. That's what I did for the bridesmaid dress I wore in my friend Camella's wedding (see hummingbird below).

Ooh...I hope that tutorial comes out soon. Wow-ee.

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Socially-Conscious and Eco-Friendly Centerpieces

Reader Rebecca just sent a brilliant idea for centerpieces that are truly good for the Earth: gift baskets that would be donated to food banks after the wedding.

The idea came from reminiscing about her Bat Mitzvah centerpieces:

"I worked with my Mom to make food donation baskets! We painted the baskets in dusky rose and silver (sigh, my 13-year old color palette preference) filled them with canned food items, wrapped them in cellophane and ribbon, attached a note saying where the food was going, and voila!"

She continues:

"For a wedding, I'd probably go with something 'prettier' and stay away from non-eco friendly cellophane, but still. I was thinking maybe wrapping the cans and jars individually with pretty papers or simple ribbon, and maybe mixing them in with old tin-can vases for a similar stylistic impact (a la Style-for-Style). For shelters that accept fresh fruit, that's also a centerpiece option (not all do). Besides the charity impact and the waste reduction impact, using non-floral/non-perishable centerpieces would undoubtedly cut down on day-of stress about decor (flower shopping, transporting and arranging! ack!). For the less aesthetically inclined and DIY-impaired, I also found this charity that rents centerpieces in return for a charity donation."

These ideas are great. I love the prospect of infusing a traditionally aesthetic element of a wedding with true sentiment and meaning. I'm sure you could easily do it in a meaningful and aesthetically pleasing way. Plus, I'm always inspired by decor that will have a second life beyond the wedding. Way to reuse!

Editor's Note: I meant what I said in an early post about pushing ourselves to not obsess about details. For example, Matt and I decided that centerpieces were not within our budget or our mental capacity, and yet our guests still had a great time. However, I do think it's important to feature more eco-friendly and socially-conscious options for those folks who are opting for centerpieces.

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Missing Pumpkin

Our Obama pumpkin that Matt carved during our date night is missing.

Hmph.

A reader had these heart-warming consolations:

1. Obama's support is growing. People are so desperate to proudly display this support that they "borrow" things like lawn signs and pumpkins, which are in very short supply (according to my Mom, who volunteers at local Obama HQ). This is truly possible, even in non-Austin Texas.
   
2. The theives are voting McCain and running scared. Desperately, angrily scared. Stealing your pumpkin was the only way these mental and emotional peabrains could deal with their growing frustration and impending loss.
   

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Aesthetics and Sentiment

Meg over at A Practical Wedding is running a great feature right now: Brides who have made it to the other side and have come back to share their post-wedding wisdom.

It's refreshing to hear them echo much of the same sentiment again and again: the details don't matter as much as we thought they did before the wedding. Community, connection, commitment, and fun do.

It's easy to see why the details feel like they matter. There is a multi-billion dollar industry that bombards us with magazines, TV shows, and advertisements that scream: "The details are everything!" The professional photography that we see from weddings exacerbates the situation: the shoes, the centerpieces, the cake...all of these images convince us that our guests really are looking at those things. And if our guests are looking at those things, then we sure as heck better focus on them.

There's also the DIY, hand-crafted movement that celebrates the details. For lots of us, it's fun to make favors or hair accessories.

I think the trick when you're planning a wedding is to remember that it's very, very easy to see the world through wedding lenses. The details--for a lot of us--tend to feel way more important than they otherwise would. Everything gains a significance that it otherwise wouldn't. We're at risk for focusing more on the wedding than the actual marriage.

The decisions we make while planning a wedding should be filtered through an awareness of the wedding lens. We should ask ourselves, "How would I feel about this if I weren't in the middle of planning a wedding? Is there something else I should be thinking about or doing that would develop my post-wedding life more?" I'm not saying you won't still have those crazy moments. But at least you'll have a mechanism in place for re-grounding yourself as needed.

I included an image of some thank-you cards I just picked up at the Target clearance. The Wedding Industrial Complex tells us that our thank-you cards have to coordinate with our invitations and our colors and our wedding theme. The DIY movements tells us they have to be made with a Gocco or designed by an artist.

But when the wedding is said and done, the aesthetics matter less than the sentiment. What matters is the message on the inside and how sincere and personal it is. Of course those two things aren't mutually exclusive. The details of our weddings can be both aesthetically pleasing and full of sentiment. But we have limited time, and the more time we spend thinking about one, the less time we have to think about the other.

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Knowing When to Say When

So I'm crazily trying to finish my Scrabble Halloween costume by this Friday, and I'm realizing that I'm firmly in Stage 5 of the DIY process: Regret and Frustration.

What exactly made me think that quilting an entire dress was a good idea? I mean, seriously, I'm not much of a seamstress. Following a simple dress pattern (even quasi-successfully) is enough of a stretch. But then to quilt the fabric first? It takes f-o-r-e-v-e-r!

Last night I had to make a decision about the white lines between the squares. On the one hand, I need to have them. They are clearly a necessary part of creating an authentic Scrabble board. On the other hand, they are a major pain in the ass. Seriously! I have to sew a little piece of white fabric between each square and then sew long lines of white fabric between the rows.

And, in my quest to make a more authentic Scrabble board, I'm actually making it more messed up because it's much more difficult to get the squares to match up from row to row. Argh!

As you can see from the photo, I erred on the side of making it more difficult on myself (although more authentic!).

When engrossed in DIY projects, we are inevitably faced with these kinds of decisions. Do we deviate from our original grandiose plans and settle for less than perfect in order to make the project a little easier? Or do we suffer through, confident that the pride we feel at the end (in Stage 6) will outweigh all the frustration of Stage 5?

It's a tough call. Sometimes I make the decision to stick to my original vision (as with the white lines) and other times I opt for a less-than-ideal-but-easier option.

Case in point: I originally wanted to sew plastic over the dress to create little pockets that would hold the Scrabble tiles, so I could be an interactive board. People could make new words. Very cool, but not necessary and certainly not time-efficient.

Sometimes, there comes a time in the middle of DIY projects when you just have to say enough is enough.

I'm reminded of Kristina over at A Lovely Morning. She had sweet visions of making homemade jam as favors for her wedding. She knew when to say enough is enough and instead decided to make individual jars for the smaller group of people attending her rehearsal dinner.


Do you have any examples of saying enough is enough when it comes to DIY wedding projects?

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Enjoy the Wedding Planning Process

Another quote that highlights the idea that we should enjoy the wedding planning process, not just suffer through it as we await the wedding:

"The best way to secure future happiness is to be as happy as is rightfully possible today." --Charles W. Eliot

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Turning Wedding Photos into a Book

I've been trying to create hardcover books of our wedding photos for our families' Christmas presents using Inkubook (because they offer a free book the first time you use them), but I find that the whole experience is not very user-friendly.

Initially, I was very excited that the program let me import photos from flickr (that's where all the photos are from our guests), but when I try to use them, the program reports that the file size is too small and will likely result in a low quality picture.

Additionally, completing simple tasks--like changing font size and color--is proving to be downright difficult for me (despite that fact that I'm normally proficient enough with tech stuff). I can't even seem to finish the front cover. Argh!

I'm all about saving money, but if I can't actually produce something I want to give as gifts to my family members, then it's not worth it.

Does anyone else have recommendations for other sites that let you turn your photos into hardcover books (specifically, a company that's inexpensive and user-friendly)?

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Vampire Cupcakes

I think I'm going to stick with the idea of giving caramel apples to my neighbors for Halloween, but I might use this idea for next year!

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Potted Centerpieces

I've been thinking a lot about elements of a wedding that can be reduced, reused, or recycled.

I saw this idea in a wedding featured by Snippet & Ink (the same wedding that had the fresh lemonade during the ceremony): live herb centerpieces.

The couple planted live herbs in pots and used them to distinguish the tables from each other. I just love the idea of "live centerpieces." You could do the same with flowers.

Does anyone have pictures of this being done in a different way?

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Serving Drinks at the Ceremony

Over at Snippet & Ink there's a lovely photo of fresh lemonade that was served right before a wedding ceremony. (Photo courtesy of Kella MacPhee).

If you're already stressed about all the details, ignore this post! The last thing I want to do is jump on the you-should-obsess-about-this-detail-to-make-your-wedding-even-more-perfect bandwagon.

Honestly, this is a totally unnecessary "touch." I just happen to enjoy it. I first experienced it at a very fancy indoor wedding. As we entered, the caterers handed us some Arnold Palmers (i.e., iced-tea mixed with lemonade).

Matt and I decided we wanted to do the same thing for our outdoor ceremony (only minus the caterers). We opted for bottles of root beer and water (which were recycled after the ceremony). We purchased them in bulk at Sam's Club, kept them cold in the refrigerators in our cabins at the reception site, and borrowed coolers from the innkeepers at the reception site to transport them to the reception site.

We asked our dear friend, Marie, to be responsible for getting them to and from the ceremony site. She gladly volunteered and actually appreciated the opportunity to greet everyone at the ceremony with, "Would you like a drink?"

If we had had more money, I would have opted for Izze drinks in glass bottles. Yum!

Do you have any other ideas for serving drinks at ceremonies?

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Budget-Friendly Flower Idea

Wow. A Backyard Wedding just posted the most brilliant, budget-friendly idea I've read in a while. Here's what she said about her DIY flowers:

"A few weeks before the wedding I posted an ad on Craig's List asking if anyone in the area had local roses they would let us pick. I thought it was a long shot, but a woman who grows roses and other flowers for floral arranging competitions responded and said we could pick whatever we wanted from her yard! She was going to be on vacation, but she left out buckets and clippers and everything for us."

It didn't end up working out (due to a losing the address and not being able to get in touch with the vacationing woman), but it's still a fantastic idea.

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Marriage Licenses and Other Rigamarole

Some states make it easy to get married; others make it more difficult.

I imagine that Colorado (the state Matt and I got married in) is among the easiest.

1. A marriage license only cost 10 bucks
2. No blood test was required
3. You can marry your first cousin, if you really want to
4. You can sign the certificate yourselves and officially be your own officiants if you want to

So, Matt and I didn't have much difficulty in this department. We decided to have my best friend and Matt's good friend, Andy, preside over the ceremony. He had ordained himself through the Universal Life Church, but in the end, it wasn't necessary. Matt and I signed the marriage certificate ourselves during the ceremony (with Andy being one of the witnesses). The truth is, we weren't officially married until we mailed that certificate in and the court approved it.

I have this idea--correct me if I'm wrong--that you can basically do whatever the heck you want during the ceremony, as long as you follow the official protocol for getting a marriage license, getting it signed by the right people, and mailing it in. Is that right?

In other words, if you live in a state that only allows real ministers or real court people to solemnize a marriage, couldn't you make a side trip to the court to get officially married and then proceed with the ceremony how you want? With whomever you want leading it?

It seems like an easy way to get around a lot of hassle.

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Date Night #1: Pumpkin Carving

Ahh...date night. What fun!

We decided to cook tomato, mozzarella, and basil sandwiches because the heirloom tomatoes we bought at Whole Foods were very, very ripe. As a side tangent, I am frustrated by Whole Foods's tendency to sell produce from far, far away. I live in Houston. So far, far away for me is--oh, let's see--North Africa! New Zealand! Seriously, it is not good for the Earth for us to cart produce all over it (even if it's organic, which it isn't always). The amount of greenhouse gases that are released into the air is just ridiculous.

Back to the story: We also made salad with pears, dried cranberries, and sunflower seeds.

After dinner, the carving started.

Matt went for a political statement on his pumpkin, while I tried my hand at carving letters (just three--I spelled b-o-o and added a couple stars). Hoss was obsessed with chewing on the pumpkin stems.


And now it's time to make pumpkin seeds. I love regular ol' baked pumpkin seeds, but I think I'm going to try something a little more unique this year, like this recipe:

Ingredients:
1 medium pumpkin (5 to 7 pound size), reserve seeds
5 tablespoons sugar
1/4 teaspoon coarse salt
1/4 teaspoon ground cumin
1/4 teaspoon ground cinnamon
1/4 teaspoon ground ginger
1 pinch cayenne pepper, or to taste
1 1/2 tablespoon peanut oil

Directions:

Heat oven to 250F.

Line a baking sheet with parchment paper. Cut pumpkin open from the bottom, removing seeds with a long-handled spoon. Separate flesh from seeds and discard. Spread seeds on parchment in an even layer. Bake until dry, stirring occasionally, about 1 hour. Let cool.

In a medium bowl combine 3 tablespoons sugar, salt, cumin, cinnamon, ginger, and cayenne. Heat peanut oil in a large nonstick skillet over high heat. Add pumpkin seeds and 2 tablespoons sugar. Cook until sugar melts and the pumpkin seeds begin to caramelize, about 45 to 60 seconds.

Transfer to bowl with spices and stir well to coat. Let cool. These may be stored in an airtight container for up to 1 week.

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Tip #8: Ideas for Building Successful Relationships

Plan date nights.

As much as I enjoy our nightly routine (i.e., cook dinner or eat out and watch a movie, play Scrabble, or work on crafts) I also appreciate an occasional date. I like the message it communicates: "I care enough to set aside time to plan something that will make you happy."

So tonight's date? Pumpkin carving! (and seed roasting)

And, as an additional surprise, I did all the grocery shopping for the week (which Matt and I usually do together), so we have more time to just carve and relax. Matt gets to choose from our five menu options:

1. Vegetarian lasagna
   
2. Homemade pizza (did you know Whole Foods will sell you a thing of raw dough for real cheap?)
3. Black bean and yam quesadillas with guacamole
4. Grilled cheese and spicy bean soup (with homemade bread)
5. Tomato, mozzarella, and basil sandwiches

So, um, I'm noticing every single meal has cheese. I guess that's what happens when I do the shopping...

Find other tips here

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Less than Ideal Options that Get the Job Done

I'm trying to figure out the lighting situation for our backyard Halloween dance. We need enough light but not too much.

I searched around the internet and found lots of cute options. I'm a big fan of the lanterns and the balls.

In the end, however, I'll probably just resort to plain ol' icicle lights. They are the cheapest and they get the job done.

I never thought we would have used icicle lights for our wedding (see picture above), but Cathy and Cory, the innkeepers of Sunshine Mountain Lodge, let us borrow theirs for free. With our strict budget, decorations were not a huge priority for us. In the end, I really liked the feel they created.

It's funny how a cheap, less-than-ideal option gets the job done perfectly well. Something to keep in mind when planning a wedding!

Here are the other options I considered:

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DIY Applique

I needed a baby gift for my dear friends, Marsha and David. Usually, my go-to gift for a new baby is a pair of Robeez. They're adorable, but expensive. In an effort to save money in case we head into the Second Great Depression, I decided to make a little something instead. I actually had all of these materials on hand:

1. An organic onesie (available at Target)
2. Random fabric
3. Steam-a-Seam 2: Double Stick Fusible Web
4. A fading fabric pen
   

I started by peeling back one of the layers of Steam-a-Seam and pressing the fabric onto it, wrong-side down. Then I drew my shapes using the fading fabric pen. I then cut out the shapes (I used pinking sheers to cut out the bird's body).

Next, I peeled off the second layer from the Steam-a-Seam and positioned my shapes. The cool thing about fusible webbing is that you can reposition stuff as much as you want until you get it just right.

Once everything was exactly how I wanted it, I pressed the iron over it for 10 seconds.

When everything was basically glued in place by the fusible web, I sewed around the shape using my quilting attachment and was done with the onesie! Then I made a quick envelope out of a Starbucks bag. Voila!


Let me know if you have any questions. I thought I would share this process in case it's useful for any of your DIY wedding goodness. You can do this process on virtually anything: t-shirts, cloth napkins, handkerchiefs, dish towels, sweatshirts, canvas bags, etc.! (Please leave other ideas in the comments section.)

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Unique Wedding Gifts

I've been on a gift kick lately (i.e., gifts to give your significant other on your wedding day).

How's this gift? A surprise wedding shed. The groom, owner of a shed-making business, had been secretly and diligently working on this special mode of transportation for a month. He surprised the bride with it as they finished the ceremony and were preparing to go to the reception.

How thoughtful!

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Update: Halloween Par-tay

A reader actually took me up on the open invite to our Halloween shindig. Hooray! I can't wait to meet one of you (and your fiance).

So, if there are others of you who are vaguely interested and yet oh-so-unsure about attending a random person's party, get over it! You won't be alone.

And, just for the record, we're co-hosting the party with friends of ours, so there will be an assortment of people there--some we know and some we don't. Therefore, you wouldn't have to feel any awkwardness about not really knowing anyone, since all of us will be in that boat to a certain extent.

Seriously, just shoot me an e-mail at saracotner@yahoo.com and I'll add you to the evite.

For those of you who don't live in Houston, I promise this is my last harassing e-mail about the damn Halloween party! (although I will continue to talk about the overlap between planning a party and planning a wedding)

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Couples Having Fun Together

I love to see pictures of couples having fun together. Here's a video full of them:



Video courtesy of Real Life Weddings

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Halloween Par-tay

Any Houston-dwellers (or Austinites/San Antonians/etc. willing to make the trek) want to come to our Halloween party?

We're meeting at 6:30pm (on Halloween night) to trick-or-treat for canned goods to donate to a local food bank. The old-school dance party (with an outdoor lounge for the wall flowers) starts at 8pm. We're serving frito pie and sundry Halloween goodies.

I don't mean to sound like a crazy woman by sending out a blanket invitation to the internet abyss. I just think it's fun to connect with new people. If you want to be officially added to the evite, just e-mail me at saracotner@yahoo.com.

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Letters to Your Significant One

I'm touched by this idea over at The Nesting Blog.

A dad has woken up at dawn for the past 15 years to write a letter to his children.

A mother did a similar thing--although in a less time-intensive manner. She set up an e-mail account for her son and every time something memorable happens, she jots down the quote or the story in the e-mail account.

It would be sweet to write letters to your significant other during the dating process and your engagement and then present them to him/her on your wedding day. What a great gift! I was just trying to come up with gifts to give during the wedding ceremony on this post here.

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