One of the activities Matt and I did at our pre-marital class (which was actually, um, post-marriage) was talk about our independent visions for our relationship.
Step One:
- Each partner independently reads through a list of words and circles the five that really capture the essence of your relationship.
- Then each partner takes a turn explaining to the other partner what they circled and why.
Here are some sample words to choose from:
- Warm
- Trust
- Honor
- Known
- Respect
- Open
- Spirit
- We
- Belonging
- Security
- Bond
- Attachment
- Fulfilled
- Accepted
- Fun
- Parent
- Companions
- Kindness
- Loyalty
- At peace
- Cherish
- Connected
- Sincere
- Soul
- Support
- Us
- Treasure
- Supportive
- Love
- Gentle
- Complete
- Passionate
- Romance
- Close
- Caring
- Team
- Committed
- Sharing
- Laughter
- Sex
- Unity
- Reliable
- Encouraging
- Responsible
- Friendship
- Closeness
- Heart
- Oneness
- Understood
- Future
- Compromise
- Pure
- Empathy
- Considerate
- Together
- Strength
7 comments:
Interesting, thank you!
Would you consider posting more of these types of "activities" from your classes? Where we live there seem to be very limited options for those of us who do not wish a religious bend be put on our premarital workshop. We have already invested in Happiness for two and think likewise that investing in a healthy future for our life together starts now. Thanks!
This is great. Thanks for sharing and for spending time on your blog discussing the point of the wedding- the actual relationship! I would welcome anything else you're willing to share on this, like Karuna noted above it can be difficult to find secular pre-marital education options.
Thanks!
I will do this with my guy... thanks!
Thanks! I'm pretty sure Loverboy and I will be sitting down in the future to look over these and such. It'll be interesting to see where we agree (and therefore, I suppose, disagree)!
What if I need to choose more than five?! But really, this sounds like a great exercise. I can't wait to do pre-marital counseling ourselves!
I've read the post about the counseling class y'all were able to find in Texas. I think we'll be in California before we get married, and I can't seem to find anything similar for that state. I search and all I get is private therapists.
Any ideas where I might find a list of resources or something?
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