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Wednesday, January 26, 2011

Putting the Marriage Before the Wedding

During the wedding planning process, it can be so easy to let the wedding part overshadow the marriage part. Most of the wedding books on the market, the TV shows, and the wedding magazines don't help the situation!

I'm excited about this book recommendation from 2000 Dollar Wedding kindred spirit, Jodi. The book is Before You Plan Your Plan Your Wedding...Plan Your Marriage.

Here's the description:

Authors Greg and Erin Smalley open their hearts and share their lives in Before You Plan Your Wedding...Plan Your Marriage so that you can know not only how to build a marriage that will last, but also how to have the kind of marriage where you and your spouse feel safe and honored and valued. When you feel safe, your heart will be open -- and open hearts make for fulfilling, powerful relationships.

Find out about the "fear dance" and how to stop dancing it. Discover the two biggest issues that threaten every marriage and how to stop them before they start. Learn what's more important than finding your soul mate and the significance of happiness in your union.

As wonderful as a wedding is, it lasts only for a brief time -- yet marriage is meant to last a lifetime. This important book will show you how to plan your marriage before you plan your wedding.

I'm always look for good books that can help Matt and me strengthen our relationship. Has anyone read this book? If so, do you recommend it?

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Anonymous said...

"Why Did I Marry You Anyway" by Barbara Bartlein. It's a bit traditional in terms of gender roles and she clearly has some issues with alcohol consumption (her standards for what is problematic are incredibly low, and I don't drink) but it also has some really great advice and wisdom.

Unknown said...

My fiance and I are reading "The 10 conversations you must have before you get married." It focuses a lot on communication. Each chapter features a topic like 'children', 'money', 'family', 'career', 'sex', etc, and questions based on that topic for you and your partner to discuss.

We're still working through it, but I like it so far. Though we'd already talked about most of the topics at some point or another, it is good to pointedly do so. And some questions might seem silly or obvious, but they are good prompts and ensure that you consider the topic in depth; not just what that topic might mean to you and/or your partner.

Shawn said...

I haven't read the book, but my boyfriend and I were lucky enough to attend a relationship retreat where they were the speakers (the retreat was subsidized by my school). They do teach from a Christian perspective, but I was worried they would be preachy and they weren't at all. They were incredibly down to earth and actually shared a lot of really humorous mishaps and misunderstanding that they endured early in their marriage. I like that they work as a couple, so you really get the same situation through her eyes and then through his - you get to see how different the two versions can be.

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