Tying the Knot in a Meaningful and Memorable Way (Without Losing Our Savings or Sanity)

Monday, August 8, 2011

The Power of Partnership

Phew! What a whirlwind!

I had a bunch of different waves of work crashing into me at the same time. It was a little rough! First I agreed to read my friend's manuscript for her book about teacher organization. Then I had my own book deadline (which, thankfully, I met!). I had to submit the finalized outline and a sample chapter. It was something like 20,000 words. Egad!

The day after my first deadline to my editor, I had to travel to Austin to deliver two days of professional development about transformative reading instruction. I had to make a PowerPoint that was something like 170 slides, and the handout was 70 pages.

Simultaneously, we were trying to figure out Matt's job situation, since we are moving to Austin to pursue two big goals.

I get re-stressed just thinking about all that stress! It kind of reminds me of planning a wedding, looking for a new job, learning how to buy our first home, searching for a new home in another city, finishing up Montessori teacher certification, and packing up your entire house in Denver and moving to Houston two days later. Not that I would know anything about that.

But through it all, Matt has been the very best partner a girl could ask for. He has taken on extra Henry duty, extra Hoss duty, extra cleaning duty, extra cooking duty--and he's had to put up with Stressed Sara, which is not very much fun.

Also, he had to take two days off of work to come with me to Austin, so that he could watch Henry while I was working. He also had to drive Henry to me a couple times every day, so that I could feed him (the pumping thing never worked out for me).

He even drove us to and from Austin, so that I could work in the car, which totaled more than six hours!

On top of all that, we haven't been sleeping well because Henry's first tooth has been coming in. Craziness!

Okay, I'm going to stop droning on and on about how hard life has been. I'm only sharing all of this because it is evidence that supports the larger theme: Day to day life can be hard, and our marriages are there to support us. Our partnerships are the life preserver that gets cast to you right when you need it.

When you're in the middle of wedding planning, it can be so, so easy to let wedding overshadow your relationship. But at the end of the day, we have to step back and remember, "It's not about finding the perfect shade of ribbon or finding the perfect milk glass vase. It's about forming a partnership; it's about forming a life together."

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Jessica said...

It sounds like you have an amazing support system within your marriage! What a gift.

My partner supports me endlessly in our relationship. I only hope I'm as good as he is.

Kelsey said...

What an amazing partner you have! I think you also demonstrated another important relationship value - you have to recognize and show appreciation for your awesome partner! Even if it's just a simple, "I appreciate all that you do so much!" It always makes it more pleasant to take care of a partner when you know that they value your hard work.

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