When you're in the throes of wedding planning, it can be easy to get caught up in the question:
What makes a good wedding? After all, pretty much every wedding blog has an answer to that question.
I think, though, that we need to spend a lot more time asking and talking about this question:
What makes a good marriage?It's a question I think about a lot. Matt and I are always working to make our marriage stronger, more loving, more appreciative, more fun--it's definitely a work in progress.
We also work really hard to make our marriage equal. As soon as Matt and I moved in together, we started putting systems in place to
distribute household responsibilities equitably. We tend to cook dinner and clean up afterwards together, but we divide our chores up into even chunks. We also gave a lot of thought to
combining our finances in a way that felt fair and collaborative. Regardless of who is bringing in more income, we each get the same amount of personal money to spend every month. We've tried to come up with systems that work
for us.The addition of Henry in our lives has made the equal distribution of responsibilities even more difficult. When I wrote about it on my personal blog,
Feeding the Soil, a kindred spirit shared
this article about equality within families.
It's a fascinating read. I highly recommend it!
