Tying the Knot in a Meaningful and Memorable Way (Without Losing Our Savings or Sanity)

Tuesday, January 17, 2012

Anniversary Party: Establishing the Vision

When Matt and I decided to get married, we sat down over a dinner of Mexican food and brainstormed our "goals" for our wedding. Rather than start with the details, we wanted to start with the big picture.

It turns out that spending some time upfront to spell out our vision was one of the smartest decisions we made. At the time, we didn't know that the wedding planning process would be tumultuous. We didn't know that we would be pulled in all sorts of different directions (both by others, as well as our own internal pressures about what makes a wedding). Our "Mexican Food Manifesto" turned out to be the lighthouse that gave us direction and kept us on course throughout our seven-month planning journey.

Now that we're gearing up to plan a 5-year anniversary party, we need to start in the same place. We need to start with the vision, so we don't lose sight of where we're trying to go. I look forward to sitting down with Matt and seeing what we come up with. In the meantime, here were our goals from our wedding:
  1. We want to bring family and friends together to reconnect and form new friendships.
  2. We don’t want the experience to feel overly-orchestrated. It’s a celebration of our love, not a show.
  3. We will fight consumerism by spending only $2,000 max. The Wedding Industrial Complex is conspiring to make us think we have to spend more money. But we want to make the event special with sincerity, not money. Plus, we need to save money for a house, and we certainly don't want to start our life together in debt.
  4. It will be good for the environment and connected to nature.
  5. We want to have real time to spend with guests. We want to be able to spend quality time with our friends and family.
  6. We will make all the decisions ourselves so our wedding represents us (hence another reason why we need to pay for it ourselves).
  7. We only want to be surrounded by our closest friends and family.
  8. We want to be relaxed and fully present.
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